In No More Perfect Kids, Savage and Koch take an in-depth look at the Perfection Infection, explore why it’s so
dangerous, and share four antidotes to help eradicate it from our lives. Building on that foundation, they then
explore seven core identity questions kids silently ask themselves and explain how parents can apply the antidotes
to answer those questions in a way that gives their child freedom to fly. These questions include:
• Do You Like Me? We have to nurture the children we were given and not the children we wish we had.
• Am I Important to You? Many positive and negative behaviors have their roots in whether our children feel
important and valued.
• Is it Okay I’m Unique? We all have specific traits, talents, learning styles, and temperaments that God longs
to use for His purposes.
• Who am I? The more they hear you call out their unique, defining, positive traits, the more they will begin to
define themselves positively too!
• Am I a Failure? Our children are in process, and the more often we remind ourselves of this, the more grace
and love we’ll have for them along the way.
• What’s My Purpose? Understanding why we’re in the world and what impact we can make gives us inherent
value both as members of society and members of God’s family.
• Will You Help Me Change? Loving them for who they are means we don’t expect more than they’re capable
of. It does mean, however, we don’t expect less and we don’t expect them to be what they cannot be.
“When you and I can let go of “being perfect” and really embrace the process of “being perfected” by God, we’ll
experience the contentment and freedom we intrinsically long for,” says Savage.” And, we’ll give our children the
freedom to be themselves.”
dangerous, and share four antidotes to help eradicate it from our lives. Building on that foundation, they then
explore seven core identity questions kids silently ask themselves and explain how parents can apply the antidotes
to answer those questions in a way that gives their child freedom to fly. These questions include:
• Do You Like Me? We have to nurture the children we were given and not the children we wish we had.
• Am I Important to You? Many positive and negative behaviors have their roots in whether our children feel
important and valued.
• Is it Okay I’m Unique? We all have specific traits, talents, learning styles, and temperaments that God longs
to use for His purposes.
• Who am I? The more they hear you call out their unique, defining, positive traits, the more they will begin to
define themselves positively too!
• Am I a Failure? Our children are in process, and the more often we remind ourselves of this, the more grace
and love we’ll have for them along the way.
• What’s My Purpose? Understanding why we’re in the world and what impact we can make gives us inherent
value both as members of society and members of God’s family.
• Will You Help Me Change? Loving them for who they are means we don’t expect more than they’re capable
of. It does mean, however, we don’t expect less and we don’t expect them to be what they cannot be.
“When you and I can let go of “being perfect” and really embrace the process of “being perfected” by God, we’ll
experience the contentment and freedom we intrinsically long for,” says Savage.” And, we’ll give our children the
freedom to be themselves.”
This book is fantastic and I highly recommend it to every parent!
